Brian and alec’s story
How did you guys meet?
Brian: We met on Instagram about three and a half years ago. Alec sent me a direct message and I just double-tapped it and I waited a year before I commented back.
So, what do you like about each other? Alec first.
Alec: Things change over time. So, initially, I could tell from his pictures and videos that he was somewhat mysterious, and never really wear his emotions on his sleeve which I liked. However, he is not like that with me. I like the fact that he is as silly and extremely caring. And I think that people can tell from our videos on YouTube and in person that he cares so much, whether it’s about me or the people around him. He is an amazing father and also very spicy too. So those are my favorite things about him.
Hmm. He is spicy. He’s an amazing father. Wow. Okay, Brian, what do you like about Alec?
Brian: He is all the things that I admire and would want to be in a person. I love the fact that he is outgoing and cares about people, if not just as much as me, probably more. And he is very helpful. He’ll do anything in his power to help. And he goes above and beyond. I love his sense of family, too. He didn’t hesitate to be a father to our son. He even helped me to come up with different things to parent our child. So I love him so much for that.
Oh, you have a son? that’s great. I don’t see him often with you guys.
Brian: He lives here. He’s with us. So, to be completely honest, when it comes to sharing him on social media, it is something that we’ve gone back and forth about. Initially, when we had done the page, it was actually in preparation for our wedding at the time. It was a private profile and we had only added people that were initially invited to the wedding. Of course, over time and exposure and other people finding the page, the nature of the page had changed, and we kind of just went with the flow. But having him out there on social media, being that his mother is still involved and he is 11, we wanted to ease that process. You’ll see him in some of our YouTube videos, but we prefer working him into it for the social media part.
So what are some of the highs and lows in your relationship as a couple?
Alec: There are so many. I think it would be hard to pinpoint all the highs. I think the pinnacle of it all is actually getting to the point of marriage. Being up there, saying our I dos, and exchanging the rings is the biggest of it all. As a Jamaican, that’s not something I ever imagined would have been my reality. Our lows would be experiencing loss together, which in itself is also high because you know that somebody has that emotional capacity to support you in your lowest moment. So, we’ve experienced losses of family members on both sides together. We’ve experienced disappointment with our immigration process. Those two things stand out for me the most outside of the everyday challenges of being in a relationship. But to be quite honest, I think we’ve thwarted some of the challenges normal couples would have had because we do have some level of open communication.
Wow, That’s great. I mean, what keeps us strong as human beings are our highs and lows and how we juggle in between them. So that’s great. My last question is where do you see each other in the next five years?
Brian: I’m hoping to see Alec in a successful career or be able to work in the next three months. I can also see us buying our house together and just starting our family as a unit.
Thank you so much, guys. This was fun!